I've started to notice a bit of a trend: Close Lady-Friendships [for me] seem to have (about) a 1-Year Life Expectancy~
CASE 1:
In 2016, I started hanging out with a particular person on a regular basis. We were both part of the local Club/Dance Scene and had a lot of mutual friends so we eventually met up. I think it was our shared appreciation for stuffing our faces with food prompted a closer connection (typically consisted of late-night fooding adventures). At some point, we referred to each other as "Fooding Fiancé/Fiancée". It got to a point where people believed we were dating. Nothing ever happened as neither of us saw each other as any kind of prospect. We were just good friends that liked to go out to eat. The late night outings became less frequent until we eventually became more like acquaintances~
CASE 2:
2017, I started regularly hanging out with another individual from the Club/Dance Scene. I believe this started happening after a large group-outing. We eventually became closer friends through a shared appreciation of [Eastern] Pop Culture. I think this friendship might've been a bit more questionable to outside peers [given the circumstance] but much like Case 1, I believe neither of us saw/see each other as any kind of prospect. In recent events, interaction has been limited and maybe even neglected~
I understand that I'm also partly responsible for both cases. I should probably make more of an effort to maintain contact. I've been told that I do have a habit of believing in Self-Fulfilling Prophecies; more accurately, placing Self-Fulfilling Prophecies on myself. But with both cases, in the given circumstance (let it be school, work, personal life, etc), I find myself wondering if my presence is needed or not and, in the end, my mind leads me to believe that the best course of action is to give the person space. You know what they say: "You do you, boo. You do you." Let it be soul-searching or whatever, it's the course that I [personally] would take. I have to realize, however, that they AREN'T me. The thing is, I'm TERRIBLE at reading people. Because of this, I have this fear that I'll overstep my boundaries. That's something I don't want to do~
Then again, here I am, looking for CASE 3. I have a different feeling about this one as our chance meeting seemed too good to be true (sitting in the same Starbucks hoping to run into her again). In retrospect, I should probably put more effort into CASE1 & 2 to [at least] maintain that same level of friendship. Or do I take a different route and hope to meet [potential] CASE 3 and start from scratch? Either way, the idea is to maintain consistency. Rather, maybe do something to break the trend. You know, because "Self-Fulfilling Prophecies" or whatever~
CASE 1:
In 2016, I started hanging out with a particular person on a regular basis. We were both part of the local Club/Dance Scene and had a lot of mutual friends so we eventually met up. I think it was our shared appreciation for stuffing our faces with food prompted a closer connection (typically consisted of late-night fooding adventures). At some point, we referred to each other as "Fooding Fiancé/Fiancée". It got to a point where people believed we were dating. Nothing ever happened as neither of us saw each other as any kind of prospect. We were just good friends that liked to go out to eat. The late night outings became less frequent until we eventually became more like acquaintances~
CASE 2:
2017, I started regularly hanging out with another individual from the Club/Dance Scene. I believe this started happening after a large group-outing. We eventually became closer friends through a shared appreciation of [Eastern] Pop Culture. I think this friendship might've been a bit more questionable to outside peers [given the circumstance] but much like Case 1, I believe neither of us saw/see each other as any kind of prospect. In recent events, interaction has been limited and maybe even neglected~
I understand that I'm also partly responsible for both cases. I should probably make more of an effort to maintain contact. I've been told that I do have a habit of believing in Self-Fulfilling Prophecies; more accurately, placing Self-Fulfilling Prophecies on myself. But with both cases, in the given circumstance (let it be school, work, personal life, etc), I find myself wondering if my presence is needed or not and, in the end, my mind leads me to believe that the best course of action is to give the person space. You know what they say: "You do you, boo. You do you." Let it be soul-searching or whatever, it's the course that I [personally] would take. I have to realize, however, that they AREN'T me. The thing is, I'm TERRIBLE at reading people. Because of this, I have this fear that I'll overstep my boundaries. That's something I don't want to do~
Then again, here I am, looking for CASE 3. I have a different feeling about this one as our chance meeting seemed too good to be true (sitting in the same Starbucks hoping to run into her again). In retrospect, I should probably put more effort into CASE1 & 2 to [at least] maintain that same level of friendship. Or do I take a different route and hope to meet [potential] CASE 3 and start from scratch? Either way, the idea is to maintain consistency. Rather, maybe do something to break the trend. You know, because "Self-Fulfilling Prophecies" or whatever~
